about heels and all

18 Oct

While researching for a very interesting project – stillettos as a cultural object, i came across articles about whether it demeans or empower us?

Its an illusion which we can see but choose to deny.

Heels are undeniably feminine, and the extra height — I’m 5ft 6in, so a three or four-inch heel took me to eye level with most of my male colleagues — brings a certain authority with it.

They are also undeniably sexy, giving shape and tension to calf muscles, allowing a woman to cross her legs and casually, but provocatively, to swing her shoe gently from her dangling foot.

I’ve watched men’s eyes transfixed on such a sight, at times to such an extent that they lose track of the conversation going on around them.

It’s as though they’re looking at a woman in her underwear, rather than at a high-powered executive, who is just — well — crossing her legs and swinging her shoes.

Shoes become power in those moments — power to distract, disarm and seduce. A man lost in momentary lust is liable to agree to anything from a raise to a promotion.

I was never that sort of feminist — the highest pair of heels I ever bought, a pair of bright green Yves Saint Laurent sandals (with 5in heels), was in 1972. I remember buying them with a sense of defiance.

I wore them with pride, not to hide my feminist politics, but to say: ‘I’m also a female who likes men and who knows that shoes like this are sexy.’ I also wore mini skirts, tight jeans and cropped T-shirts, but nothing worked as well for my sense of sexuality and femininity as heels.

Later, when I was in my 40s, I’d buy high-heeled shoes more for the height (and thus the power) that they gave me, but I still liked the fact they made my legs look longer and thinner.


Do I feel diminished in my post-heel days? A little, but I don’t miss the pinched toes, the bunion that was developing on my left foot (which has now receded) nor do I miss the fact I often found myself unable to walk quickly if my heels were just a tad too high.
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From what i’ve read, it seems women feel wearing heels is worth all the trouble because they can gain more than lose. Somehow the arguements by those who believe heels demean a women are not as strong. One is unable to see what is behind the illusion they choose to be in. Similarly, i know it is wrong to eat unhealthy food yet i want to. It is just so much tastier and i cant deny myself that indulgence.

Now i feel brainwashed into thinking i should wear heels to feel sexier 😉

Why put yourself through the inconvenience and immobility, the deferred agony when your throbbing toes are released from captivity.

To me, serious heels just signal geisha girl status: a willingness to please men at the expense of yourself, because it is impossible to relax if your feet are killing you.

Comfy is the new cool. That’s a real step forwards.

Click on the above link to read more interesting stuff on the what another lady who believes heels empower women has to say about mating and heels from the past to the present.
Just and excerpt for you 😉

By the end of the Sixties, heels were still a weapon, but the battleground had shifted. I was told by a boss: ‘I expect you to wear heels at the office.’

‘Really, why?’ I asked, already an embryonic feminist.

He looked baffled. ‘It is a woman’s duty to look attractive to men,’ he decided.

So I took to wearing stilettos, which intimidated men as well as entrancing them. Heels turned you into a sex object. If you ran, you fell. That was the charm.

Then you either lay where you fell or whacked him with them. But by then the mating game was changing.


One Response to “about heels and all”

  1. Pooja October 20, 2009 at 9:02 pm #

    Heels r definitely weapons-they totally kill ur feet…

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