Archive | May, 2010

Basic Lessons to Your Child

31 May
: Teaching the Quran   
: To greet the elderly first  
: Reply to a Islamic greeting   
: To wear the shoes starting right foot 
: To wear a shirt starting right hand    
: To eat with the right hand    
: To respect the elderly    
: To sleep onto the right side   
: To respect the neighbours    


 Simple do’a  

Before a meal :- (1849 bytes)   

Bismillahi wa ‘ala baraka-tillah.
Translation: With Allah’s name and upon the blessings granted by Allah (do we eat).  


After a meal:-  



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Alham do lillah hilla-thee At Amana wa saquana waja ‘alana minal Muslimeen.
Translation: All praise is due to Allah who gave us food and drink and who made us Muslims. 


After sneezing:- 

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     Translation: Thanks and all praise be to Allah!

  Reply to someone who sneezes:-

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Yar Hamoo kall Lah.
Translation: May Allah have mercy on you. 
When entering the toilet:-
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  Allahumma in-nee a’oothu bika minal khubu-thee wal khabaa ith.  

When leaving the toilet:-

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  Ghuf-raa naka  


etiquette of Islam

30 May
One would be surprise to find out that Islam is more than just a religion, its a way of life. People say this about other religions as well, learnt this when i was taking South Asian studies, that is another story altogether. Just be surprised by what else Islam teaches besides praying and fasting.
 Is Islamic Clothing Restrictive?  

· Dress requirements are not meant to be restrictive for either men or women. 


· Most Muslims who wear modest dress do not find it impractical. 

· Many people continue with their activities in all levels and walks of life.  

Some people dont understand that our aurat has to be maintained for all activities in life. Someone asked me, so when we  go cycling at Pulau Ubin, you have to wear like that? I said yea, why not? So what, i cover up daily but for cycling, i wear a tank top and shorts. I shall take it that they just dont get why we must ‘suffer’. But seriously one gets used to it, just like one does for many many things in life.     


Socks and Shoes  

· Rasool’Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) used to wear sandals that had two straps.  



· He (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) never wore shoes that had fur.  

 · Various types of socks were worn by Rasool’Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam).  

 · Shoes and socks should be worn starting with the right foot and then the left. In removing the shoes and socks  

 · In colder climates, Muslims used to wear leather socks.  

 · Rasool’Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) wore shoes that had two laces.  

 · Rasool’Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) has prohibited the wearing of only one shoe.  

 · He (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) has also prohibited the putting on of shoes, whilst standing.  · It is Sunnat for men to take off their shoes whilst sitting and then place them on the side.  

 · Rasool’Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) was once presented with plain black shoes, which he afterwards put on.     

The Beard And Moustache 

· The beard is the Sunnah of Ambiya, the sign of Islam, the recognition of a Muslim and the beauty to the face of a man. 

· The keeping of the beard keeps one away from various sins. 

· To keep the beard one fist length is Sunnat and to trim it less than this or remove it completely is Haraam, and sinful. 

· One whose beard is less than a fist’s length cannot be an Imam. 

· To mock the beard can also lead to Kufr. 

· To shave off the beard and lengthen the moustache is the way of the Kuffaar. 

· Rasool’Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) has commanded us to lengthen the beards and trim our moustaches. 

· The moustache gives off a certain secretion which is not healthy, and if it were to go into the food and water, then it would be unhealthy. 

· The moustache should be trimmed, and not shaven off completely. 

· To shave the beard, weakens the manhood. 

· To dye the beard and hair with black dye for men is prohibited. 

· Women who get beards or moustaches are allowed to remove them. 

You can find out more about the ettiquettes of islamic clothing here.  
















morning syarahan

29 May

The last time i listened to the Syarahan pagi was when i was sick a year ago. I was in bed most times but very little sleeping was done because i just couldnt sleep. My loving mother would accompany me in my room and when the morning came, she would switch on the radio to accompany us. There was a syarahan so related to the state i was in, being sick, and how Allah loved someone who was sick. Alhamdulilah if you’ve been falling sick then 🙂


This morning, i was awaken by the sound of donald duck noisy racket blaring away and the soft mumble of the morning sermon from outside my room. Snooze was not the option which won me over instead i climbed out of bed intending to pray my morning prayers, fajr. I saw my brother heading out to work then, poor boy, leave for work so early because we live so far from the east. Oh well, at least we dont live in the far west.

Abulation worked wonders in kicking the sleepy me out of the system. Instead of praying, i sat on my bed clad in my prayer attire, telelngkung, listening to the sermon. Memories of pergas flashed through my mind. Rasulullah was mentioned so many times and i forgot to say *sallallahu alaiwasalam* till the last time the ustaz mentioned the blessed prophets name. Out of sight, out of touch. How going to pergas meant i wouldnt forget, i would have no choice (kinda) but to listen to good things being taught and allow my iman to reach a higher point during its fluctuations.


I was saying to someone, reflection is important. Why, that someone asked. I had to think up of a million reasons to convince that someone. Far from convinced, that someone was. I guess this quote, which i love so much and have difficulty forgetting, shows reflection and perhaps why it is important.

Sebelum mata dipejam, dalam suasana yang kelam. Luangkan secebis waktu dikala malam mengimbas kembali kisah silam, adakah hari ini lebih baik dari semalam? Fikirkanlah.

We are also advised to think back on who we backbite against, who we’ve been rude to and what mistakes we made for that day and ask for forgiveness.


Content of the morning sermon:

Sedekah was the topic of discussion.

He cited an example of the Rasulullah with the sahabahs (people closest to Rasulullah during his time) and how they were advised to donate anything they could from their possessions. They all left the mosque and went back home to look for things to sedekah (donate) however sitting in the corner were a group of sahabah who looked solemn and sad. When asked why, they said it was because they didnt have anything to sedekah.

Rasulullah said fret not because sedekah comes in all forms;

1 tasbih, tahmit, tahlil and one more(i forgot!)

Subahanallah wa alhamdulillah wa laailhaillaallahu wallahu akbar

2 Amal jariyah

Doing good deeds.


3 Leading one to do good and preventing one from doing what is haram or prevented by Allah.

4 Berjima’ ( i chose to say it in malay because it sounds less course)

Doing it when it is not allowed is haram, its ok when its halal (after marriage) then it becomes a blessed action. If you still cant guess what im trying to mean, it’s what happens between married people(in islam). For what is happening in society today, i wish to say nothing. It is clear though that it only becomes a sedekah when it is halal between the 2 individuals.

And there we have it. The ustaz ended with another hadith which i hope i would cite accurately.

While Allah was creating this earth and all of its contents, the earth asked Allah what is stronger than the mountains? Allah said metal is. The earth then asked again what is stronger than the metal and Allah said fire is as it can melt metal. The earth asked again what would be stronger than the fire and Allah said the water which can put it out. The earth was not sated yet so he asked again what then is stronger than water and Allah said wind. Wind actually caused the water from the sea to fly up into the air and sweep the lives of many during what we know as Tsunami. What then is stronger than the wind? Anak Adam (Human) who gives sedekah.

If i made any mistakes please correct me if you know how, otherwise please forgive me. The gist of what i heard on the radio is here, hope it helps us all and i remind myself before anyone else.

im no song crazy but i do have favourites

23 May

This used to be my favourite movie when i was like 5-6 years old. I watched this movie so many times i cant remember anymore.

My mum would leave me alone at home (it was a really big house and i would be scared so sometimes i relate scary thoughts to this song) sometimes, *wonders where my brothers were at that time* just know that i was alone and i would watch this movie, Roja. Loved the songs. Cant remember if i understood any tamil then but i doubt at such a tender age, i would have.

To be honest i dont remember the story line, despite having watched it a number of times. Well the song though is a different story…still brings back fragmented memories.

Oh and in the playlist on youtube, i found some of my old favourites! This was a really sad movie and oh how i loved sad songs!

And one last one!

Definition of an Islamic Home

18 May
(Posted by: servantofallah – on Monday, August 23, 2004 – 08:53 PM – 11094 Reads)

Islamic Stories

“And Allah has made for you in your homes a place of rest…”[An-Nahl:80]

This may seem like an unusual question and your automatic response may be “Why, of course my home is an Islamic Home!! My family is Muslim and that makes our home a Muslim one!!”Go through this short checklist to determine if your response should really be in the affirmative.

I Have Chosen a Good Spouse
There are several ahadeeth that highlight the importance of choosing a righteous and pious spouse. The wisdom of this is obvious: a pious spouse is more likely to bring happiness and contentment to the other spouse and the couple together will be more able to build a righteous family and home life. This is the foundation of the home.
I Help Guide My Spouse
This begins with each spouse fulfilling the duties and responsibilities of their roles and treating each other with kindness and compassion. It then goes beyond this to include guidance in other spiritual matters such as striving to strengthen imaan; paying attention to worship and correcting it when needed; encouraging the reading of Qur’an, praying at night, giving charity, and reading books on Islam; helping to choose pious friends; enjoining goodness and forbidding evil. Emaan is something that may increase or decrease so it is necessary to continually focus on increasing our own and that of our spouse.

Our Home is a Place for Remembrance of Allah

Remembrance can be in many forms: with the heart, with the tongue, through prayer, recitation of Qur’an, memorizing adhkaar and using them, discussing Islamic issues, or reading Islamic material. These are things that should occur on a consistent basis so that the angels will come to the home and bring Allah’s blessings. The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wasallam, said: “The example of a home in which Allah is remembered and the example of a home in which Allah is not remembered, is like comparing the living and the dead.” (Muslim).

Our Home is a Place of Worship

This means that salah is established within the home at its required time and that members of the family pray in congregation when several are present. The family may also designate a specific area for prayer and maintain its uniqueness and cleanliness. For women, it is better to pray each prayer within the home. For men, it is recommended to pray voluntary prayers at home after having prayed obligatory prayers in the masjid. The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wasallam, said: “The voluntary prayer in the home is better than the voluntary prayer with the people. It is like the obligatory prayer of the man in congregation being better than praying the obligatory by himself.” (Sahih al-Jaami). This is to ensure that homes are made places of worship just as the masajids.

We Regularly read Surat Al-Baqarah and Ayatul Kursi to Keep Satan Away
The Messenger of Allah, sallallahu alayhe wasallam, said: “Recite Surat Al-Baqarah in your houses, for the Satan does not enter a house in which Surat Al-Baqarah is recited.” (Sahih al-Jaami). He also said: “When you go to your bed, recite Ayatul Kursi: ‘Allah! There is no god but Him, the Ever-Living, the One Who Sustains and Protects all that exists’, to the end, for then there will remain over you a guardian from Allah, and Satan will not come near you until morning.” (Bukhari).

Teaching and Learning are Ongoing Activities in Our Home
This is primarily the responsibility of the head of die household who must ensure that he is guiding his family to the correct path, enjoining them to do good, and forbidding them from evil. Attaining knowledge is incumbent upon all members of the family and is the basis upon which Emaan will flourish, A study circle should be established in the home that covers the various areas in Islam and from which all family members will benefit. Children should especially be encouraged to participate since this will establish a pattern for them that will be carried throughout their lifetimes.

We Have an Islamic Library in Our Home
This may include such things as books, cassette tapes, and CDs. It is important to choose accurate and reliable material that will benefit the members of the family. There should be a variety of materials to cover all age levels and language needs of those in the home. Arabic material is definitely a must since everyone in the family should either know or be learning to read the language of the Qur’an. Books should cover a variety of topics, be properly organized, and be easily accessible. Audiotapes and CDs may include Qur’an recitation, lectures, khutbahs, tapes for children containing supplications, reminders of Islamic manners, and nasheeds (religious songs with no musical instruments). Family members should encourage one another to use these materials on a regular basis, and should be shared with other Muslim families who may be in need of them.

We Try to Have Morals and Manners Like Prophet Muhammad
The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said; “When Allah wills some good towards the people of a household. He introduces kindness among them.” (Ahmad, Sahih al-Jaami). He also said: “Allah loves kindness and rewards it in such a way the He docs not reward for harshness or for anything else.” (Muslim). There are many examples of the Prophet’s kindness and good treatment toward his family that we should try to emulate. He was affectionate and playful with his wives and children and would help with household chores to case the burden for his wives. Following his example will bring tranquility to the home and help to truly make it an abode of rest.

We Know the Islamic Rulings That Pertain to Houses
Such as guarding the secrets of the home, seeking permission to enter, not looking into other people’s homes, not allowing children to enter the parent’s bedroom during certain times of the day, and not staying alone overnight. This last one is interesting to consider since some husbands travel for their business or work. The Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wasallam, actually discouraged this. Ibn Umar reported that the Prophet forbade being alone and said that a man should not stay overnight alone or travel alone (Ahmad). Not only will he be alone, but his wife and children are likely to be left alone in the home without any protection or companionship.

We Invite Righteous and Knowledgeable People to Our Home
“My Lord! Forgive me, and my parents, and him who enters my home as a believer, and all the believing men and women.” [71:28]. Righteous people who enter your home will bring many benefits due to their presence and conversations with them. They are more likely to discuss useful topics and may be excellent sources of information and knowledge. We should always make du’aa that Allah will bless us with righteous friends since they can have such positive effects on us. The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wasallam, said: “Keep company with a believer only, and let your food be eaten only by the righteous.” (Abu Dawud, Tirmithi).

There are No Evils Within Our Home
Television (except possibly for educational programs) and unlawful music are not allowed in the house; pictures on the wall do not contain animate beings; there are no statues or anything that resembles statues; dogs are not present in the house; smoking is not allowed; decorations are kept simple to avoid excessiveness; the telephone is used for beneficial purposes and not harmful ones (such as gossiping or backbiting); when people come to visit, the men and women sit separately. The effects of these evils on the sanctity of the home should be obvious. For example, the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said: “Angels do not enter a house which has either a dog or a picture in it.” (Bukhari).

The Physical Aspects of the Home are Conducive to Fulfilling Religious Obligations
It is best for the home to be close to a mosque so that it will be easier for men to attend the prayers in congregation and for all family members to visit the mosque for lectures, study groups, and social gatherings. It is also advisable to find an area where other Muslims live to obtain the benefits of community. One should definitely be careful about close neighbors and avoid those who are obviously immoral. When choosing a house, consideration should be made regarding the availability of separate sitting areas for men and women. The house should be spacious and fulfil safety and health requirements.

dreams change, i think dreams dont really come true

16 May

watching movies gives us an avenue to dream of how life would turn out for us, well at least it did for me 🙂

Now it is slightly different…perhaps more matured or life has just changed.

unnecessary obstacles to marriage

14 May
Young women have many hopes and dreams. Among the most important of these dreams focus upon their future husbands, the men who are going to be their partners through the long and arduous journey of life. Some girls want their husbands to be young and handsome. Others prefer men who are gentle and romantic. Still others want their husbands to be rich or famous.
These dreams are sometimes beset by obstacles that prevent the young woman from ever realizing them, obstacles to marriage that are uncalled for and unnecessary. Among the most important of these are the following: 
1. Studies: This can take many years, depending on the program of study undertaken and the desired degree goals. In truth, a woman’s marriage is not incompatible with her furthering her studies. What it needs is for there to be an understanding from the onset between the husband and wife about the matter of her studies.  
 I see this as part of facing up to our changing circumstances. There are many destructive influences that beset our young men and women today. The mass media has an overwhelming effect. The world is more open. Early marriage has become more of a necessity for our young men and women than it has ever been before. It needs to be given priority. A young woman should give the matter her attention, as should her parents.     
2. The father: A father may turn away prospective suitors for his daughters for many reasons. These reasons might be financial or cultural. Sometimes the father insists that his daughter marry one of her cousins or no one else.    
Consider the following examples:    
• A woman over 30 years of age complains that her father has a distorted sense of his own greatness and sees himself as a man of considerable importance and status. He refuses to marry his daughter to anyone except a man who satisfies his standards. Such a man will never come.   
• A university graduate who works and is obliged to give her monthly salary over to her father in full is prevented by her father from ever marrying for reasons that are obvious.   A father prohibiting his daughter from marriage is a terrible crime that makes the skin crawl. Even if the father’s faith is weak and he is not God-fearing, we would think that he would have some humanity or mercy in his heart. We find more mercy exhibited by wild animals for their children. While this father sleeps comfortably in his room with his wife at his side, his grown up daughters are tossing and turning restlessly in their beds, because they are being denied the greatest of physical blessings that Allah has placed within us the drive to seek out.   
Allah is speaking to every believer when He says:   “…do not prevent them from marrying their husbands, if they mutually agree on reasonable basis. This (instruction) is an admonition for him among you who believes in Allah and the Last Day. That is more virtuous and purer for you. Allah knows and you know not.” (Qur’an, 2:232)   
So where are those who believe in Allah and the Last Day?   
Preventing one’s daughters from marrying suitable men with whom they are pleased is a serious form of oppression. Friends and relatives need to intervene in order to help those women and free them from their confinement. If this does not happen, then the courts need to intervene. Social and governmental agencies should be mobilized to protect women who are being prevented from marriage and confront the transgression of those fathers.   
It is true that most fathers are merciful and feel compassion for their daughters and it is allowed for them to prevent their daughters from marrying certain suitors when they have a valid reason to do so. However, there are situations – though they may be few in number, they are seriously painful for the women involved – where outside intervention is needed. In many cases, the daughter will be unable to speak up in her own defense or voice a complaint.   This is because she fears destroying her relationship with her father or fears that her reputation will be tarnished. She might not have any opportunity to leave her from home in the first place or to speak to anyone who can air her grievances on her behalf. In this way she can spend her whole life and waste her youth in bitter waiting.  
3. The man: The young man who wishes to get married wants a beautiful wife, and beauty to him is what his eyes have grown accustomed to seeing in the movies and on television. He wants her to be fair of complexion, tall, and young. He wants her to have the beauty of a fashion model, the piety of the Prophet’s Companions, and the wealth of a tycoon, without him having to exert any effort on his part. He needs to come down to earth.   
This may be one of the negative effects of constantly watching movies and programs that cause our young people to live in a fantasy world that has no connection whatsoever with reality. Even if a young man lowers his unrealistic standards, he remains in distress and this puts a strain on his future relationship with his wife.   
Allah tells us: “O you who believe! Follow not Satan’s footsteps: if any will follow the footsteps of Satan, he will (but) command what is shameful and wrong.” (Qur’an, 24:21)   
4. Exuberant costs: Heavy expenditures for marriage as well as numerous and excessive material demands place a great burden upon the shoulders of young men, forcing them to turn away from the prospect of marriage.  
The postponement of marriage is a hindrance that everyone must work together to solve. It has to be addressed publicly by scholars, orators, intellectuals, public figures, and reformers. The means to marriage need to be simplified. Institutions need to be established to facilitate marriages materially, socially, and on a personal level.  


By Sheikh Salman Al-Oadah – Islam Today      


i thought shaving facial hair wasnt allowed for women

8 May

I guess it isnt just that people do what they wish.
I was reading this woman’s blog and she has a nice post on the different customs the Arabs have with regards to shaving the different parts of the body 🙂

You can find it here 🙂

Also read the many comments as well!

enjoy! ;)

7 May


1 May

I wanted to exclaim! So many fb wall post 🙂 Somehow these messages from people one barely know still makes one feel warm in the heart…

I was clearing my facebook inbox as well, a couple of wishes came through there so i dont like cluttered things. My desktop must be clean, my folders must be clean, my table must be clean before i sleep (most times hehe, and dust on table not counted) etc. Dont mistake me for a clean freak though, just hear what my dad has to say about me and you’d never believe all i said about how ‘clean’ i like to be.

Well back to clearing that facebook inbox and i came across a message from a Japanese friend i met in Bosnia who linked to his blog. His post was quite funny and there were photos of me as well!

*nice memories*