Archive | March, 2011

Tips to deal with challenges

31 Mar

       

I find this notebook very cute and hopefully useful to the kids. A kid got this from school, they can turn something to show the next tip. Nevertheless, still a nice reminder of what we can all do in times of difficulties in life.

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Walking down memory lane

30 Mar

 Our morning walk led us here; a place which holds pleasant memories for me and i wanted to share it with him. We  were pretty much alone on the state owned land. I dont remember very much of my childhood but being here, its really clear. See myself running around, playing rounders with my cousins and brothers. We’d have so much fun and exercise, sometimes fights break out but they’re never serious. We’d have visitors sometimes, but no one else takes our place when we wanted to play.

Quite sad to see the place in such a state now; shrubs growing around and not maintained. I believe it would be replaced by something else in no time since there is obviously no use for such a place anymore as the school which used to occupy this space has moved to a better place.

Speaking of run-down schools, I wonder what has happened to my school which used to look like kampung when i was studying there. To be honest, i am not ashamed to call it my school but with the way the students are nowadays, i cant help but hide the fact that i was from the very same school, years ago. Nevertheless, great memories in the kampung school where i the special people in my life.

     

friend-kin-ship

25 Mar

Love.

Between mother and child, father and child.

Between husband and wife.

Between friends.

They are all special in their own ways. I feel blessed by Allah for allowing me these luxuries in life. Alhamdulilah.

Its not the song or the tune, it is the words which touched me deep down. I hope/wish i still had close friends but i’m glad i’ve experienced them during my busy days. To think that i didnt stop to reflect at that time on the great friendships i had. Must one lose something to be thankful? Perhaps.

No regrets. There will be more things to be thankful about in the future, Insyallah 🙂

Someone added this in the comments of the video in youtube which i believe is the translation:

He’s urging his friend to look around and wonder about the world together.

He wants them to recollect their memories together, their experiences, their past joys and sorrows.

He’s directing his friend’s eyes to the direction of a strange man. A man who lives just to be seen by others, in a good or bad way.

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Aspects of Islamic Faith — Earning an honest living

19 Mar
The Prophet (peace be upon him) always emphasized the virtue of working to earn one’s living. He seized every opportunity to make this principle well understood by all people. When people requested him to give them something out of the zakat collection, he pointed out to them the better course of earning their own living. In some cases, he even went further, taking action to help the person concerned to start some gainful work, even if it is a very simple one. A Hadith reported by Al-Miqdam quotes the Prophet (peace be upon him) as saying: “No one ever eats anything better than what he eats out of his own hand’s work. Prophet David used to eat out of his own hand’s work.”

This is more or less a literal translation of the Hadith. I have opted for a literal translation to highlight the emphasis the Prophet used. The first point to make here is that the Prophet is not speaking about the preparation of food with one’s own hand, but about using one’s own earnings through one’s work to provide food for oneself and one’s family. So any work we do to earn our living is included here.

This speaks volumes about the desirability of work, even if one is rich enough to be able to provide a high standard of living for one’s family without working. The point is that personal wealth is not a substitute for work. Everyone in the Muslim community must be a contributor to the general welfare. This can only be done through active involvement in the production of the public wealth. When people opt not to work, because they are rich, or because they find begging more lucrative, or because they live in a society that gives generous allowances to the unemployed, then they do not participate in the advancement of the Muslim community. On the contrary, they represent an impediment to such progress.

We note that the Prophet cited the example of Prophet David (peace be upon him) as model worker to earn his living. We know that other prophets had their own work, such as Adam who was a farmer, Noah who was a carpenter, Idris who was a tailor, Moses who was a shepherd, Joseph who was a top government official, etc. He cited the example of David, because David did not need to work. He was a king in addition to his being a prophet. We can imagine that such a person combining the two roles would give all attention to looking after the interests of his people, which no doubt Prophet David did. Therefore, if he had a generous allowance from the state to give him and his family a comfortable standard of living, he would only be having his dues.

 Yet Prophet David preferred to work with his own hands and earn his living. What was David’s profession, then? We know of a specialized type of work he did, which is mentioned in the Qur’an: “We taught him how to make garments for you, so that they may fortify you against all that which may cause you fear.” These garments were body armor made of iron, which people used in war to protect them against the swords of their enemies. It is apparently a very skilful type of work to merit this special mention in the Qur’an, highlighting the fact that it was God who taught him how to do it.

Yet, Prophet David did other types of work, including very simple ones, such as making baskets by plaiting palm leaves. He was a king, yet he worked in such simple ways, with his own hands, to earn his own living. Why would anyone despise to do any type of honest work that gives him a decent standard of living?

Precious

13 Mar

A movie which has more substance than the usual movies i watch.

Precious

Story about a teenager who lives in an inner city area who was pregnant with her second child. Melancholy filled me as i watched it, tears threatened to roll down my cheeks when i think of her situation, her aspirations for herself, her love for her baby, her image of herself…

Just thinking along the lines of discrimination; her race, her gender, her size, her image, her status, her education level were all against her. Being brought up in a place where her mother doesnt show any love for her, her self-esteem is very low.

What i was picking out throughout the movie was social work. I think i might be getting into character, am i?

When the her principal spoke to her, i watched for the choice of words and the manner of speaking. When her teacher addressed the class of ‘wayward’ and poorly performing youths in the alternative school, i tried to pick up on the methods used to reach put to them and win them over. When the welfare officer spoke to her, again i noticed much more social work mannerism. What is ok, what is not? It really depends doesnt it. Towards the end of the movie when the welfare worker was speaking to the mother, i noticed things that made the her defensive; that the welfare worker was white, middle-class and had a degree. The mother was so afraid to be JUDGED.

I see a cycle here; unmarried couple had a child, illegimate child was raped since a long time by illegitimate father and illegitimate child becomes a single mother…how is this going to affect the lives of the fatherless children with an illiterate mother? (if she doesnt recieve help, which in this case, she is)

Dearest Mukhlis

12 Mar

I miss you when i am at home and you’re with your mother, father or with great-grandma, other grandma. I wait for your return and shower your chubby cheeks with many kisses. I looks forward to hearing your squeals in the morning when father brings you out of your room. Warmth feels my heart when you give me your toothless grin as i greet you good morning. I would spend 5 minutes playing with you before heading to school in the morning if you’re lying in the living room in your playground. Being with you allows me to forget the worries of this world for just a while and be in your world, where things are simple and wonderful.

I didnt know i have space in my heart for yet another person. It is funny how you dont have to do anything to make people love you. Just being you and looking at you makes people go uhh-ahhing and want to kiss you. I feel lucky to be able to do that because you’re my very own little nephew and you live with us.  

I think i have fallen in love with you for being  you, an adorable, irresistable little baby.

I wish you’d be blessed and protected by Allah, Insyallah.

Your loving aunt,

P

A berita Harian article on saving for marriage (Malay)

11 Mar

27 Feb 2011

FORUM

Biar cukup duit selepas majlis kahwin

SAYA ingin merujuk isu wang hantaran dan belanja perkahwinan yang dibincangkan di ruangan Forum. Saya memang tidak setuju tentang keperluan wang hantaran yang saya anggap sebagai satu kelemahan amalan orang Melayu kita.

Kebanyakan orang kita bergaji tidak tinggi dan selalu hadapi masalah kekurangan perbelanjaan harian. Malah ada yang sukar bayar bil api air dan ada juga yang tidak cukup dari segi belanja sekolah.

Anehnya, apabila anak hendak berumah tangga, mereka sanggup berusaha membuat majlis perkahwinan yang besar belanjanya dan melakukan perkara-perkara tidak perlu dan kolot. Mereka bermegah tentang majlis itu dan mendabik dada tentang wang hantaran yang tinggi.

Semua ini, bagi saya, adalah perbuatan dan perbelanjaan yang sia-sia dan membuang wang sahaja. Kenapa kita perlu beri wang hantaran yang bukan satu kewajipan dan pada ‘harga pasaran’?

Akibatnya, yang menerima padah adalah pasangan itu sendiri, khususnya pengantin lelaki yang terpaksa menyediakan jumlah wang yang besar.

Saya sendiri tahu ada lelaki yang bermain nombor ekor kerana berharap menang dan menerima jumlah wang yang besar untuk membiayai majlis perkahwinan dan wang hantaran.

Malah ada juga ibu bapa pengantin yang menggunakan wang hantaran anak mereka untuk selesaikan hutang mereka. Ini termasuk wang itu digunakan untuk membiayai majlis perkahwinan itu yang bermakna mereka sebenarnya tidak mampu berbelanja untuk majlis perkahwinan.

Ramai anak kita yang sekadar ikut amalan bodoh ini dengan memberi wang hantaran dan akhirnya wang simpanan semuanya habis.

Kini ada sebilangan anak muda yang enggan mendirikan rumah tangga kerana tidak cukup wang hantaran. Jika bakal mentua berdegil mahukan wang hantaran, maka semakin ramailah pasangan tidak akan berumah tangga.

Cakap tidak serupa bikin? Anak saya sendiri baru-baru ini mendirikan rumah tangga dengan wang hantaran $0. Bernikah di pejabat nikah dan majlis kenduri kesyukuran hanya menelan belanja $295. Saya punya wang simpanan yang mencukupi tetapi tidak mahu terikut-ikut dengan amalan menganjurkan majlis perkahwinan yang hanya men,jejas masa depan anak.

Saya berpegang pada prinsip, ‘ada duit selepas kahwin, bukan buang duit di majlis kahwin’. Kita sebagai orang tua mesti main peranan dalam memastikan masa depan anak kita bermula dengan cara baik dengan mempunyai wang simpanan yang mencukupi demi melayari kehidupan mereka sebagai suami isteri.

Syed Muravvat Hussain

 Taken from: Berita Harian Online.

Ya ummi

10 Mar

This is for my mother and all mothers out there!

عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال   : جاء رجل إلى رسول الله  صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال : يا رسول الله من أحق الناس بحسن صحابتي ؟ قال : أمك ، قال ثم من ؟ قال : أمك ، قال : ثم

من ؟ قال : أمك ، قال : ثم من ؟ قال : ثم أبوك ” . رواه البخاري ( 5626 )  ومسلم  2548

Abu Hurayrah radi Allaahu 3Anhu said: “A man came to the Messenger of Allaah sallAllaahu 3Alayhi wa sallam and said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, who among the people is most deserving of my good companionship?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’

The man asked, ‘Then who?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ He asked, then who?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’

He asked, ‘Then who?’ He said, ‘Your father.’”

A short 10 minutes reminder for us and our young generation:

SubhanAllaah, we can never repay or thank our mothers but we are good at giving back her answer, shouting, screaming, not listening to her, showing attitude, ignoring her.

may Allaah forgive our shortcomings & sins & the way we treat our mothers and our fathers & may Allaah subhaanahu wa ta3alaa give our parents the best reward. Make du3aa for your parents and be good to them

وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنْسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ إِحْسَانًا

“And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents” [soorah Al-3Ankaboot, v:8]

عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال   : جاء رجل إلى رسول الله  صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال : يا رسول الله من أحق الناس بحسن صحابتي ؟ قال : أمك ، قال ثم من ؟ قال : أمك ، قال : ثم

من ؟ قال : أمك ، قال : ثم من ؟ قال : ثم أبوك ” . رواه البخاري ( 5626 )  ومسلم  2548

Read more from the source: towardshuda

Syiar on Berita Harian

4 Mar

I’ve been trying to blog for the past few hours and wordpress is giving me problem. It has been giving me problem for sometime now, i think it might be my laptop. I tried blogging in school and it works whereas on here, i cant change the font colours, i cant use the full page view, i cant do lots of things now.

I found this article while doing some research on other issues i read in the Berita Harian a week ago. And to my surprise they actually have the online version of 7 days.

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Ustazah Azhani Abu Basri
Guru Kanan Andalus Woodlands PointMENJAGA KESIHATAN DALAM ISLAMIslam adalah agama yang merangkumi semua aspek kehidupan. Ini termasuk penjagaan dari sudut kesihatan, di mana Islam amat menitikberatkan kesejahteraan tubuh badan sebagaimana Islam menjaga jiwa dan akal. Justeru itu, kita amat dituntut supaya menjaga kesihatan kerana “sihat” merupakan anugerah berharga dari Allah swt. Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: Sesungguhnya kamu mempunyai tanggungjawab utk menunaikan hak terhadap tubuh badan kamu (hr Bukhari) dan sabdanya lagi: Orang mukmin yang kuat lebih baik dan disukai oleh Allah daripada orang mukmin yang lemah (hr Muslim)Islam juga meletakkan kesihatan dan kesejahteraan di tempat yang pertama selepas keyakinan (keimanan). Ini berdasarkan sabda Rasulullah s.a.w: “Mintalah kepada Allah kesihatan dan kesejahteraan kerana sesungguhnya tidak ada perkara yang lebih baik dari kesihatan selepas keyakinan (iman) (hr Ibnu Majah). Kita juga diajarkan oleh Islam untuk menjaga kesihatan dengan cara pencegahan sebelum ditimpa sebarang penyakit, seperti pepatah Inggeris “Prevention is better than cure”atau “Mencegah itu lebih baik daripada berubat”.Tetapi, perlu juga diingatkan, di samping kita menjaga anugerah kesihatan yang diberikanNya kadangkala kita diuji dengan sedikit kesakitan. Rasulullah s.a.w telah mewasiatkan kepada pesakit-pesakit supaya mereka berubat. Sabda Baginda s.a.w : “Allah tidak menurunkan suatu penyakit itu kecuali diturunkan bersamanya ubat”. (hr Bukhari)Di antara perkara yg menunjukkan Islam menggalakkan penganutnya menjaga kesehatan adalah Rasulullah s.a.w. telah menyenaraikan beberapa jenis ubat yang boleh digunakan seperti madu, tumbuhan herba, berbekam dab jampi syar’i…Perubatan perlu dirujuk kepada mereka yang pakar dalam bidang ini, berdasarkan hadithnya: “Jika sesuatu urusan itu berkait dengan hal-hal keduniaan maka kamulah yang mengaturnya dan jika ianya berkait dengan hal-hal keagamaan maka rujuklah kepadaku”. (hr Ahmad dan Muslim)Wallahua’lam,Sekian wassalaamu’alaikum wr wbRujukan: At-tobib, Adabuhu wa Fiqhhuhu oleh Dr. Zuhair Siba’i dan Dr.Muhammad ‘Ali Bar.

http://cyberita.asia1.com.sg/msyiar/story/0,6879,152283,00.html?