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Sundays affairs

23 Oct

The first wedding was our family friend’s son’s wedding. We didn’t get to see the bride and groom. However, we had a disturbing experience.

When we arrived, we were greeted warmly by the groom’s father and went to sit at a table where a woman was sitting alone. She started talking to us like we knew each other for a long time. I went to take food from the buffet with Mr Q. While walking back, someone stopped me and told me to beware of the lady sitting with us as they don’t know who she was and she has been asking people’s number. I was shaken and I’m not sure if the woman sensed my changed demeanor towards her.

I saw that my mother has written her address and home number on the piece of paper with her hand resting on it. I immediately grabbed the paper and passed it to Mr Q, true enough when we turned it over we saw many other telephone numbers of the people she collected.

She didn’t claim to know anyone but she did say her friend asked her to sit here, after that she grabbed someone and acted all friendly but it turns out that girl didn’t know her either.


She was talking to my parents’ ex-colleague all friendly telling about her 5 younger brothers, she is unmarried. Her youngest brother is 9 but she looks almost 40 herself… She claims to know the famous people and they were her relation.

After that my mother was a little freaked out what-more when she started talking to my father and mother butt in and told her he was always busy. She said that she was looking for a bride for her brother but couldn’t give any details as that her mother will deal with.

But if she really was, she should not be taking people ‘s contact instead be giving out her own.
Something was up with her but I couldn’t quite place it.

At the second wedding, we saw mainly the relatives! It was quite nice 🙂 it’s colour theme was golden yellow contrasted with black.






















Random shots from the tiring weekend

13 Sep





A garden wedding

5 Aug

I think I’ll let the photos do the talking this time.











South India

4 Jul

It was only yesterday or the day before when i was telling Mr Q about my travel journey through India. I told him about the Velankani, the place which is famous for a church and also what happened to it during the Tsunami. He went, ” i thought the Tsunami only affected Indonesia?” I got confused too, but i think now i remember, Aceh was mostly affected but there were other states which were affected, those along the Bay of Bengal like Myanmar, Sri Lanka, Bangladesh etc. Right?

I think its quite uncharacteristic for a girl to like maps, i do. I love reading maps, ok maybe not when its a lousy map which lacks the proper landmarks and streetnames or maps which i cannot understand. I remember holding a map in one hand and a camera in the other during one of my europe escapades.

Below is a part of the map of India with the little parts i’ve been too during my South India trip.







My dear friends’ big wedding

12 Jun




Mr Q and my family had to be at Reyas place at 8.30am. Mr Q and I were the driver for the day. Followed the couple around for their evening photo-shoot together one of Reyas’s close friend Arun. Quite fun to be brought around my own country to touristy places. A couple of people took photo of the bride and groom because they looked so outstanding. They even asked to take our photo! The western dressed newly wedded couple and the traditionally Indian dressed couple was part of singapore’s attraction. (I’m kidding of course)

My arms and legs hurts from the uncomfortable seating position in the car which was too low for my comfort. Nonetheless, happy to be part of the big day of my 2 favorite friends whom I’ve known since forever.

Dear Reyas and Adilah,

May you be blissfully married till the end. I am thankful to Allah for this wonderful ending to your epic love story and the beginning of a wonderful life together as husband and wife. Patience, understanding, compromising and accommodating are the few words which come to mind when it comes to this partnership, mind you it’s not a business 😉

Take care and enjoy!

With love,
Your friend

Of voting, wedding and little nephew

7 May





unnecessary obstacles to marriage

14 May
Young women have many hopes and dreams. Among the most important of these dreams focus upon their future husbands, the men who are going to be their partners through the long and arduous journey of life. Some girls want their husbands to be young and handsome. Others prefer men who are gentle and romantic. Still others want their husbands to be rich or famous.
These dreams are sometimes beset by obstacles that prevent the young woman from ever realizing them, obstacles to marriage that are uncalled for and unnecessary. Among the most important of these are the following: 
1. Studies: This can take many years, depending on the program of study undertaken and the desired degree goals. In truth, a woman’s marriage is not incompatible with her furthering her studies. What it needs is for there to be an understanding from the onset between the husband and wife about the matter of her studies.  
 I see this as part of facing up to our changing circumstances. There are many destructive influences that beset our young men and women today. The mass media has an overwhelming effect. The world is more open. Early marriage has become more of a necessity for our young men and women than it has ever been before. It needs to be given priority. A young woman should give the matter her attention, as should her parents.     
2. The father: A father may turn away prospective suitors for his daughters for many reasons. These reasons might be financial or cultural. Sometimes the father insists that his daughter marry one of her cousins or no one else.    
Consider the following examples:    
• A woman over 30 years of age complains that her father has a distorted sense of his own greatness and sees himself as a man of considerable importance and status. He refuses to marry his daughter to anyone except a man who satisfies his standards. Such a man will never come.   
• A university graduate who works and is obliged to give her monthly salary over to her father in full is prevented by her father from ever marrying for reasons that are obvious.   A father prohibiting his daughter from marriage is a terrible crime that makes the skin crawl. Even if the father’s faith is weak and he is not God-fearing, we would think that he would have some humanity or mercy in his heart. We find more mercy exhibited by wild animals for their children. While this father sleeps comfortably in his room with his wife at his side, his grown up daughters are tossing and turning restlessly in their beds, because they are being denied the greatest of physical blessings that Allah has placed within us the drive to seek out.   
Allah is speaking to every believer when He says:   “…do not prevent them from marrying their husbands, if they mutually agree on reasonable basis. This (instruction) is an admonition for him among you who believes in Allah and the Last Day. That is more virtuous and purer for you. Allah knows and you know not.” (Qur’an, 2:232)   
So where are those who believe in Allah and the Last Day?   
Preventing one’s daughters from marrying suitable men with whom they are pleased is a serious form of oppression. Friends and relatives need to intervene in order to help those women and free them from their confinement. If this does not happen, then the courts need to intervene. Social and governmental agencies should be mobilized to protect women who are being prevented from marriage and confront the transgression of those fathers.   
It is true that most fathers are merciful and feel compassion for their daughters and it is allowed for them to prevent their daughters from marrying certain suitors when they have a valid reason to do so. However, there are situations – though they may be few in number, they are seriously painful for the women involved – where outside intervention is needed. In many cases, the daughter will be unable to speak up in her own defense or voice a complaint.   This is because she fears destroying her relationship with her father or fears that her reputation will be tarnished. She might not have any opportunity to leave her from home in the first place or to speak to anyone who can air her grievances on her behalf. In this way she can spend her whole life and waste her youth in bitter waiting.  
3. The man: The young man who wishes to get married wants a beautiful wife, and beauty to him is what his eyes have grown accustomed to seeing in the movies and on television. He wants her to be fair of complexion, tall, and young. He wants her to have the beauty of a fashion model, the piety of the Prophet’s Companions, and the wealth of a tycoon, without him having to exert any effort on his part. He needs to come down to earth.   
This may be one of the negative effects of constantly watching movies and programs that cause our young people to live in a fantasy world that has no connection whatsoever with reality. Even if a young man lowers his unrealistic standards, he remains in distress and this puts a strain on his future relationship with his wife.   
Allah tells us: “O you who believe! Follow not Satan’s footsteps: if any will follow the footsteps of Satan, he will (but) command what is shameful and wrong.” (Qur’an, 24:21)   
4. Exuberant costs: Heavy expenditures for marriage as well as numerous and excessive material demands place a great burden upon the shoulders of young men, forcing them to turn away from the prospect of marriage.  
The postponement of marriage is a hindrance that everyone must work together to solve. It has to be addressed publicly by scholars, orators, intellectuals, public figures, and reformers. The means to marriage need to be simplified. Institutions need to be established to facilitate marriages materially, socially, and on a personal level.  


By Sheikh Salman Al-Oadah – Islam Today      


warning: Ad should remain calm

29 Dec

Link ini tentang perkara-perkara perkahwinan yang berlaku – out of proportion! (mainly tentang hantaran)

Sekarang, Parvin harus type dalam bahasa Melayu so that Adilah tak boleh nak buli die dengan translation merepek. Oklah to be honest, i’ve reading alot in Malay because of the topic i’m ‘researching’ on thus my thoughts or words might be sugar coated with Malay here and there.

Kelakar betul apa yang dibincangkan dalam artikel tu, ingin juga nak translate-kan untuk kawan-kawan bukan melayu tapi nanti copyright pulak! (trying hard to sound malay-ish and i can type Malay but speaking, jangan harap!)


There are more articles! Very fun to read if one is as free as i am 🙂

– keeping the flame alive

– mobile porn

– first impressions ~

Lulu, 23 (Bellydancing Guru)
“Oh! There was this guy! We went out 1st date, like for a movie, then went to eat and he suggested to go bowling, so we ended up playing a few rounds then he sent me home…wait this is the best part… The next day he sms me to say he had a great time, LISTED HOW MUCH EVERYTHING COST HIM LAST NIGHT, and casually said I can PASS HIM HALF THE AMOUNT ANYTIME! And he ended off with ‘hope we have more dates in the future!’ I mean….Seriously!!”

Funny right! hahaha (i think this sounds lame, unfortunately you guys have to put up with my karenah *evil laugh*)

Well, hope it was enjoyable at least! Tata~

my research led to this

7 May

Remind me again why i always get distracted?

I was working on my assignment which is due real soon and i was actually searching for photos and i got this….

And then you wonder what is my assignment all about…

FYI: I have never imagined a muslim wedding like this. NEVER!

But very interesting…


And this led me to…a blog full of jokes! and some really good ones dedicated to my friends who are working in the office…especially Adilah!

Hope you enjoyed!

A random joke….

Finally, a definition of globalization I can understand and to which I can relate

Question : What is the truest definition of Globalization?

Answer : Princess Diana’s death
Question : How come?

Answer : An English princess with an Egyptian boyfriend crashes in a French tunnel, driving a German car with a Dutch engine, driven by a Belgian who was drunk on Scottish whisky,
(check the bottle before you change the spelling),
followed closely by Italian Paparazzi, on Japanese motorcycles; treated by an American doctor, using Brazilian medicines.

This is sent to you by an American, using Bill Gates’s technology, and you’re probably reading this on your computer, that uses Taiwanese chips, and a Korean monitor, assembled by Bangladeshi workers in a Singapore plant, transported by Indian lorry-drivers, hijacked by Indonesians, unloaded by Sicilian longshoremen, and trucked to you by Mexican illegals….

That, my friends, is Globalization!

Credits to: this blog

Our busy lives

12 Jan

Weddings. Family functions. Plain visiting the other relatives for name-sake.

The younger generation no longer are interested in such events, seemingly unimportant busy lives, which appears to be more exciting than visitng the sick and elderly.

Guilty as sin, i am of such behavior but God gave us brains to think and change negative to positive.

 Some dont see the need to visiting during Eid because of work or boredom. Though i dont talk  much to those relatives, i never feel bored. I dont go for the money collection anymore as I am no kid now, am i? It is just the visiting, exchanging views and opinions about anything at all, updating ourselves on their state of well-being etc.

Some thinks that wedding is boring, just like school was boring for me, i found something to go to school for. I had a sucky CCA so that too couldnt serve as a pull factor. Well i pulled through school now, so there must have been something to interest me enough. So same thing for weddings, i dont talk to so many people also, just smile at them and they’d ask me a few questions if they knew me, my relatives that is and listen to stories. It is just the time to mingle and get to know more relatives and again the state of their well-being.

Visiting the elderly relatives, i find the hardest to encourage oneself to do so but it always lies with the niat. It is a good thing, stregthening the ties, silaturrahim. That alone could be enough if you put your mind to it.

Imagine yourself, so old and no one comes to see you while you are bored. Unwantedness, loneliness, boredom adds up to total unpleasantness and misery. That is such an ugly piece of painting ain’t it?

By visiting them, you not only make them happy but gain life learnt lessons and knowledge gained through experience. It is all in the mind.

Life doesnt just revolve around your school, work and friends. There is much more that can add spice to your life.

Just something to ponder upon;

I hate the phrase; Live life to the fullest! No offence to those who love it. I find no sense in this statement. Why are we living? Pure enjoyment?